Tuesday, April 21, 2009

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The matrimonial section of the newspaper was one of the first things I came across when I arrived in Delhi.
At first I thought it was very funny, (the Love Important one is GREAT), then I felt a little outraged at the arranged marriage concept. After learning a little more about it, I feel a little less outraged.
The main factors taken into account when arranging a marriage are age, height, personal values and tastes, the backgrounds of their families (wealth, social standing) and their casts and the astrological compatibility of the couples' horoscopes.
A marriage in India is about the marrying of the families as well as the 2 individuals.
Normally the wife lives with the husbands family, which is another relevant reason why they need to get on with each other.
In India, 1.1% of marriages result in a divorce compared with over 45.8% for the USA. This is most likely because divorce is frowned upon, but that can't explain such an enormous difference.
Many young, westernised Indians would actually prefer their mothers to pick their wives.

My softening towards arranged marriage has come from the simple reason that having similar backgrounds and values makes life a little easier and the relationship a little less complicated - there are less contentious issues.
I think that if Dan and my parents were into arranging marriages , there's a good chance we would have landed up together anyway (except that Dan is a month and 5 days younger than me - yikes).

Wikipedia has some interesting points on the subject.

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